Unputdownable
Dictonary.com sends me a word each day. Today's word was unputdownable. Really, I thought, that's actually a word? The definition explained that a person could say that a book was "unputdownable". To which I thought, most readers have a better vocabulary. An alternate definition is a person who does not feel insults or can't be put-down. Okay, I can get my mind around that word. Although, it would definitely not describe me. As a sensitive human being, and most of [...]
The Path of Less Resentment
Resentment is a feeling that builds when we are doing something we really don't want to do-- even if we agree to do it. It's one of those tricky, volcanic emotions that starts with a low ember. The people around us don't know our frustration is building. We said yes. We smile as we say it. We even go as far as to believe our own cover story despite how we truly feel about it. When our resentment finally hits [...]
How to Level the Playing Field
A very competent client once told me how she falls apart when dealing with upper management. She suddenly blurts out the wrong words, fails to make a cohesive point, and leaves in what she feels is a pool of offensive sweat. Some version of this happens to many of us. Perfectly confident people regress to a younger version of themselves when engaging with an authority figure. This unfortunate high-jacking of our adult consciousness can keep us stuck in many ways until we learn how [...]
A Thought For the New Year
The other night, I was standing with a group who were sharing their goals for the New Year. Aspirations like going back for a master's degree, writing a book, adopting a baby, and losing thirty pounds were all shared. The group then turned to the most unassuming member who confidently shared that her goal for 2016 was to..."not purchase a bottle of wine for more than twenty-five dollars." I still laugh at the thought. Granted it's a first world aspiration [...]
3 Tips to Manage the Holiday Season
'Tis the season to be joyful. Yet, even as I write that it makes me dreadfully anxious. What will likely bring me joy in the next month will be a few quiet times with my family and friends. However, I will spend most of my days planning, decorating, driving, purchasing, wrapping, rushing, and stressing over getting it all done. None of which bring me joy. So today, in the threshold of the holidays, I asked to see this in a [...]
What Marilyn Monroe Confirmed for Me
One of my most popular posts this year was about women helping women in the workplace. Even though I still hear women telling me that our sisters don't help us move ahead in our careers, I am going to be steadfast that this is a myth that should be dispelled. Here is another great example. In the 1950's, when the black artist and iconic pop singer Ella Fitzgerald was starting her career she was unable to get a booking at an important Los [...]