By Published On: January 20th, 2016Categories: Inspirational, Self-Development

Resentment is a feeling that builds when we are doing something we really don’t want to do– even if we agree to do it. It’s one of those tricky, volcanic emotions that starts with a low ember. The people around us don’t know our frustration is building. We said yes. We smile as we say it. We even go as far as to believe our own cover story despite how we truly feel about it.

When our resentment finally hits a tipping point we can lash out at unsuspecting others. They never see it coming–and often times either do we. This episode can erode trust, diminish relationships, and scare the pants off our children.

We all have to do stuff we don’t want to do. But we need to limit the amount. Politely decline when the stakes are low, and when you do say yes, determine what’s in it for you. If it maintains job security, supports a loved one in a healthy way, or will heighten your profile for advancement it might be worth a wholehearted yes. If that doesn’t work, and you still feel resentful, it might be time to share the feeling. After all, people can’t help if we don’t ask.


  1. Dana January 20, 2016 at 4:37 PM

    I agree 100%! The more you say NO to things you don’t want and YES to YOU is where the magic happens. Thanks Dawn for sharing!

    • dawnkohler January 20, 2016 at 5:04 PM

      Great way to put it Dana! Yes that is where the magic happens.
      Thanks for the comment.

  2. Donna Watson January 20, 2016 at 5:52 PM

    I am soooooooooooo guilty of too many “yes’s!” Individually, the requests are manageable; but all together, they become a chore. Thanks, Dawn, for an important reminder! (and thanks, Dana, for your input…Love it when the magic happens!)

    • dawnkohler January 20, 2016 at 10:44 PM

      Thanks for the comment Donna. It does tend to be a snowball effect. Best to pause before the reactive yes jets out of our month. I am still working on that one! Thanks for being a reader. Dawn

  3. Joanne January 20, 2016 at 8:54 PM

    Thank you Dawn. I needed this one today. :)

    • dawnkohler January 20, 2016 at 10:41 PM

      Glad it helped Joanne. I know how much to do for others and you do it with such joy.
      Preserving the quality of our giving is another way to look at this. (:
      Big hug! Dawn

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