By Published On: October 21st, 2015Categories: Self-Development

In this country, you are innocent until proven guilty. The process takes time, investigation, deliberation. Yet in our day-to-day lives, we are rarely this diligent. We often hear a comment or see a facial expression and swear ill intent, or worse revenge, before even asking a question.

I fell prey to this a few years ago while purchasing a car. The sales person was agitated and absent minded. He presented me with numbers that were incorrect and far from my financial goals. Feeling like he was trying to take advantage of me, and frustrated with his lack of professionalism, I went to complain to his manager. After I shared my judgments, the manager shut the door and informed me that the sales person had just lost his wife and child in a car accident. It was all he could do to keep him at work while he managed through his grieve. Something I would have never thought to consider.

Plenty of stuff has happened to all of us in the past that makes us quickly judge what we think is happening in the present moment. However, given our impact on others, it’s best to live life with an open mind, ask questions, and do enough investigation to understand the evidence before slamming down a gavel.



  1. Joanne October 21, 2015 at 3:52 PM

    Very true in day to day life. Thank you. Joanne

    • dawnkohler October 21, 2015 at 5:58 PM

      Joanne- So glad it was helpful.

  2. Stu October 21, 2015 at 5:26 PM

    Some fantastic thoughts, Dawn.


    A great reminder. Human responses are often not so simple. There is often a very human story behind the reaction.

    • dawnkohler October 21, 2015 at 6:01 PM

      Thank you Stu. We never really know what people are dealing with in their personal lives.

  3. Dee Elliott October 21, 2015 at 6:06 PM

    So true Dawn, so true. Did you buy the car from him by the way?


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