Our job is not to make other people’s lives fit our agenda.
Although most of us can agree to that statement it’s rather insidious how it plays out in reality. We often think we know what is best for those we love and/or influence. We can nudge, persuade, and sometimes push others in a direction that might not be attuned with their needs, values, or life path. If they comply to please us, they betray themselves. If they don’t, we can feel angry or unappreciated for our efforts to save them from the dismal future we believe will be the outcome of their decision.
The greatest strength we can give to others it to let them find their own way. Ask questions instead of give directions. Accept where people are instead of judge them for where we think they should be. We all have our own internal compass. The people that help us the most in life are the ones that encourage us to trust it.