Are You Talking Too Much?

 In Professional Development

Talking can work for or against us. It most often works against us when we are not being mindful of our motives or how we are being perceived. Sharing too much information to prove a point can seem pushy. While over-communicating to fill the air in the room, or to avoid an uncomfortable pause, will likely read as insecure or anxious. Talking too much about yourself, or self-promoting without sharing the credit with others, will likely look egotistical. Rambling in circles or jumping from loosely related topics may make you appear unfocused–and, possibly annoying.  So what is the right amount or talking?

Sharing too much information to prove a point can seem pushy. While over-communicating to fill the air in the room, or to avoid an uncomfortable pause, will likely read as insecure or anxious. Talking too much about yourself, or self-promoting without sharing the credit with others, will likely look egotistical. Rambling in circles or jumping from loosely related topics may make you appear unfocused–and, possibly annoying.  So what is the right amount or talking?  In most causes, it’s best to not dominate a conversation. Ask a question and listen. People are more likely to tune into what you are saying if they feel you took the time to understand the topic or their point of view.  If you feel uncomfortable with the audience, or the subject, say as little as possible.  Don’t try to manage your anxiety by talking too much. Watch facial expressions to make sure your audience is understanding and stop often to ask a question to assure you are engaging in a dialogue that is truly inclusive.

In most cases, it’s best to not dominate a conversation. Ask a question and listen. People are more likely to tune into what you are saying if they feel you took the time to understand the topic or their point of view.  If you feel uncomfortable with the audience, or the subject, say as little as possible.  Don’t try to manage your anxiety by talking too much. Watch facial expressions to make sure your audience is understanding and stop often to ask a question to assure you are engaging in a dialogue that is truly inclusive.

Most importantly, think before you speak. Processing out loud can cause all kinds of misunderstandings in the workplace.  Best to save that for a good friend, or a good therapist.

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