By Published On: August 25th, 2015Categories: Self-Development

Talking is one of those behaviors that can work for or against us. It most often works against us when we are not aware of how we are being perceived.

Sharing too much information to prove a point can seem pushy while over-communicating to avoid an uncomfortable pause will likely read as insecure or anxious. Talking too much about ourselves may look egotistical while speaking in circles or jumping from loosely related topics can make us appear unfocused (and possibly annoying). Rambling without noticing that our audience isn’t engaged can build us a reputation as being self-absorbed or lacking in emotional intelligence. And nobody wants that. So what is the right amount of talking?

In most causes it’s best to not dominate a conversation. Asking a question and then actively listening is often the best way to get off on the right foot. Watch facial expressions to make sure your audience is understanding and stop often to ask a question to assure you are engaging in a dialogue that is truly inclusive. Most importantly, let your authentic personality shine through your words. People rarely remember what we say but often recall how we made them feel. I think I’ve said enough.